Disagree, or Do We?


A while back I finished The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey.

This one advice made me think, a lot:

“Seek First to Understand”

I mean, how many times you found yourself or other people (real or in movies/tv..etc) disagreeing only for the sake of disagreement.

We kind of live in a world where so many people are trying to set themselves apart from the rest of the world.

We want to be the best, to be individual and have our own spotlights.

The easiest way to do it, is be different.

Have a different style in clothing, talking, working…

Two problems come across my mind though:

One, is different always better? Is taking the other way really the best choice?

and, two, is it really different, or are we just saying it or understanding it wrong?

No two people would say they didn’t want world peace, or stable climate, food for everyone, and equal civil rights to all human kind (unless they were really different of course…).

How we can get there however, is all the rage. And I mean a real rage.

Politicians, activists and ordinary people, going on and on in endless arguments. If they all sat down and stopped saying ‘I must disagree with you there’, if they just all shat up and listened to one another they’ll see it, bright as the sunlight

They agreed!

Not on everything, of course, but on the important things. The things that put us all on the same side.

I mean, did you have an argument with someone recently?

With a parent/spouse/child, a boss or a teacher of how this chore/job/homework should be done?

Are you sure that your answer, your way, was actually different than what they were saying?

Or did you just disagree because being a little rebellious/different was standing up for yourself and not being a pushover?

Think about it,

I find myself thinking about it quite a lot: Are we all the saying the same things in different tongues?

Seeing the number of mediums/ languages in the world , we might as well are.

So, why can’t we all stop Disagreeing First and  start Understanding First ?

Seekingsomepeace 🙂

An answer to the Daily Prompt Disagree.


2 thoughts on “Disagree, or Do We?

  1. OaktownVibes says:

    This was beautifully written and I eye opening. I loved it. I believe if we listened more to understand instead of replying, the world could see an amazing difference and people would be more kind to one another. At the end of the day, we all just really want to be understood. Peace and love to you.

    • seekingsomepeace says:

      Yes, I totally agree. I think despite being in a world open to all kinds of communcation tech, we’re still not listening to each other.
      Peace and love to you too 🙂

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